Stop With The Hair Wars And Just Do YOU

I recently read an article about Kim Kimble adding over seven pounds of hair to Oprah’s wig for an O Magazine cover. The third generation stylist stated,  “I say, whatever makes you feel good and creates your confidence, do it. If you prefer natural, go for it. If you like long weaves, I’m not mad at that either. It’s only hair. At the end of the day, it’s an extension of your style, your image. So whatever makes you feel good, rock it.”

I strongly agree. Sometimes we in our own community tend to bash each other because of a certain hair style that we choose to rock or desire to have. There is so much hatred and hair wars going on that some people forget how to be free and stop putting others in a box.

Pastor A.J. Aamir of Resurrecting Faith in Waco, Texas recently told his congregation not to wear weaves because he believes that it means that you have low self-esteem. He explained his reason to  “Long hair don’t care. What kind of mess is that? I don’t want my members so focused on what’s on their heads and not IN their heads. I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. Yet, a 26-year-old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”

What?  How can a pastor or anyone else tell a woman how to wear her hair and what to spend her own hard working money on? So is this pastor saying it’s more acceptable for this struggling 26-year-old to pay him $300 instead?  Not buying that. This is very hypocritical. No one tells him how and what to spend his money on.  I think it’s more appropriate in the house of God to uplift the spirit, be encouraged, talk about how to have self-control, renewing the mind, loving your enemies, —not judging someone.

It’s not cool to criticize or condemn someone because they do something that doesn’t fit your taste. Do you. Not what society says you should do. We have enough School Daze situations going on with us now. It’s time for people to really stop sleeping and WAKE UP! We need to embrace and respect each others personal choices and different styles. And that goes for the pastors too.